Mama Drama

I am a member of a local mom's group. I rarely do anything with the group anymore, but I still post on their message board. I've been a member since 2005, and quite frankly, I have only done a handful of things with them. Part of it is because of my schedule, and part is because of the fact that I am rather introverted. I just don't enjoy being in large groups of people. It's just part of my personality.

Recently, there was quite a bit of drama on the forum. It was really petty, in my opinion, and I didn't get involved with it. Well, not on the public forum, anyway. I did send an email to two of the members, trying to get them to possibly discuss the situation with the person they were initially upset with and hopefully resolve it.

That didn't work. To be more accurate, it failed miserably.

Now the entire forum is fighting, and somehow the subject of ousting members who don't attend group activities came up.

Um, that would be me, in case you weren't paying attention before.

I joined the group not long after Captain Chaos came along. There were no requirements for membership. But now I, and a few others that I know who are not active "in real life", are being told that we are not welcome.

Granted, the owner of the site has not said this, and probably isn't even aware yet that it is being discussed. I'm also pretty sure that she won't go for it. But I know where I am not wanted.

No, I do not have any intention of leaving. There are a few girls there who can tolerate people other than those in their buddy circle, and will undoubtedly still be my online friends. And it's been a great resource for me when I have a question about some aspect of raising a child.

Not that too many people even respond to me anymore. I thought that was because they knew I was a conservative and didn't like my politics! :) But I guess maybe it's because they want me to leave, since I don't go to Mom's Night Out with them.

Oh, well. So sorry to disappoint them, but I think I'll stay. However, part of my method of attempting to eliminate stress in my life has been to avoid drama, if at all possible. So I think it's time for me to bow out of the current discussions.

Even though I don't agree with a lot of things those girls have said, I am really not even mad about it. I don't get mad about things like that, not for long, anyhow. I just kind of laugh them off. I have figured out over the past few months that life is way too short and stressful to worry about things that don't really matter. I would still be friendly to any of the girls from that forum if I saw them at the mall. Maybe I am weird (well, there's not much doubt about that), but I just don't understand being mad at someone and staying that way forever.